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Go to work, cook dinner, watch some TV and then go to bed. Your nightly routine with your spouse/partner is getting a little bland. Before you know it, you’ve been stuck in a rut and where’s the romance? In today’s hectic lifestyle, it’s easy to just hang out on the couch and the crash, but sometimes you need a little more. Here are a few tips for finding the romance you’ve been missing in your 40-hour workweek in one weekend.
Your main goal should be to nurture your relationship rather than maintain your relationship. It is inevitable that over time you are going to be busy with work and family and eventually sex is just something placed on the backburner. This doesn’t usually occur with new relationships, but after you’ve been married awhile or even been dating awhile- your priorities in life begin to change. In order to nurture your relationship, it is a requirement that you put as much energy into it as you did when the relationship began. This not only applies to your sex life, but by making your spouse/partner feel as though you are genuinely trying to make them happy. This may mean that you cook their favorite meal, even though it may be hamburgers, and inside you really want something different.
So, this weekend cook your spouse that meal they love. Watch a romantic movie and then set your own mood in your own room. Candles, satin sheets, soft music on the radio-whatever it takes to put both of you in the mood. Have a glass of wine or champagne and celebrate the fact that you are actually getting to spend some time together. In this moment together, emphasize what you know your partner enjoys and do it to the max. They will return the favor and it will be a night of pure bliss. Be sure to soundproof the room or send your kids off to grandma’s house for the weekend. Plan to have the next day off together. Sleep as late as you want and take the day to relax together. Lay in bed all afternoon watching movies or just talking and hanging out.
Posted by Valerie on Sunday, September 3rd, 2006 at 5:57 pm.
Enjoy the much-needed time together and try to do this as often as possible. It may be difficult to find the time but plan a date night or weekend and take full advantage of it.